Catch your kids being good!
Trust me, everyone knows when they are being bratty. Everyone.
Try to draw attention to the times when they are being good. Reinforce it with good comments.
“I saw when you tried to share your toy.”
“I noticed that time you gave Alex a hug.”
“I’m pleased your remembered to be kind to the cat.”
So take time to deliberately notice when they are good. Let them know. The old adage ‘you catch more flies with honey’ has its place.
(PS try it on the adults in your life… with out being patronising, of course!)